I got a girlfriend, but she still cannot forget her ex boyfriend who she was with for 4yrs and got a baby girl, but the guy ran away with another girl. Now I win her heart, but she say she dare not trust, fear to trust. What should I do to let her put her trust in me?
Hello Barry, You have a couple of things to deal with here. Furst, your girlfriend doesn't sound as though she's completely over her ex. Do you know how long ago hey broke up and how long she was single before she started dating you? How long have you been a couple? The other thing is the issue with trust. It sounds as though she's been hurt in the past and she's fearful. Although you've not done anything to hurt her, she's fearful of what you could do. A man has hurt her in the past. You are a man. So, you have the potential of hurting her if she lets herself become vulnerable again. Not your fault, but you pay the price. You need to let her have time and give her every reason to believe that not all men will hurt her. Take a look at this (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/a/reports/trust/) for clarification. Hope that helps. Good luck. -The Guru